The Buddhists say "Don't cling to things, because everything is impermanent."

But then isn't the whole point of living is to experience it, go through all the twists and turns that life throws at you? How could you be able to do that if you are detached? Detachment doesn't mean you don't let the experiences penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That's how you are able to leave it. If you hold back on the emotions, if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them, you can never get to being detached, you're then too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. Put yourself through into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is . You know what grief is. And only then can you say, "All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now you need to detach from that emotion for a moment." I thought about how often this was needed in everyday life. How we feel lonely, sometimes to the point of tears, but we don't let those tears come because we are not supposed to cry. Or how we feel a surge of love for someone but we don't say anything because we're frozen with the fear of what harms those words might do to the relationship.Turn on the faucet. If you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a familiar shirt, then you can say to yourself, "All right, it's just fear, I don't have to let it control me. I see it for what it is."